Taking Charge and Moving Into Happiness

Now that you have become aware of some of the obstacles that are holding you back from your true happiness, hopefully you are now able to notice, accept, and understand that you CAN change your reality. In order to change that reality, you must first change your thoughts and your words by taking charge of your life.

One of the best bits of wisdom I have learned is from Esther Hicks is when she said, "Think only thoughts that feel good and talk only about what you want." Since we know thoughts and words become emotions, and emotions send off a vibration, you can now understand how you have created your current reality. With the programing that we have and the manner in which our mind operates, it is no wonder that we have made life so difficult at times.

We may have been used to a life of suffering, victimhood or martyrdom. We may have told ourselves to stay small, live in lack or settle for less. Some of us have become accustomed to feeling bad. Now that you know this does not have to be your reality any longer, it is time to take charge and turn your life around.

Start with just noticing your thoughts and feelings on a regular basis. It is a great beginning to taking control. When you make a conscious effort to surround yourself with people whom you enjoy, begin talking about things that make you happy, and think about things that feel good, you can't help but start to notice a shift.

You may still have blocks and triggers that make you feel uncomfortable and that is perfectly normal. What you don't want to do is to dwell on them. Don't call a friend and start complaining and tell your story 10 more times. Simply find something else to talk or think about that makes you feels better. I still get uneasy thinking about money on occasion and it can create some discomfort. When that happens, I simply think about my wonderful life and the blessings that I DO have such as my husband, my kids, my home, my car, and any other happy memories. If thinking about a work assignment gives you anxiety, simply give yourself a break to focus on something else until you are in a calmer place and can put things in to perspective.

It is funny how we are programmed to live in a place of negativity. I was thinking how while I was growing up, and even now, the adults were always telling us what not to do and the negative things that could happen if we did do it. "Don't run in the street or you will get hit by a car", "Don't spend your money or you will end up broke". Why not, "stay on the sidewalk where you are safe", or "save your money so you can build your savings"? I know I was guilty of it as a parent myself. According to a UCLA study, the average toddler hears the word "NO" up to 400 times in a day. Clearly we have been trained to think that we must focus on what not to do or what we don't want.

What we need to do is start focusing on what we DO want. We all know what we don't want and that is usually what we talk about. Our society is focused on anti-war, terrorism, fighting diseases, and fighting hunger. Ironically, this is what the world keeps manifesting - war, terrorist attacks, disease and famine! So start talking about what you do want. The Universe / Source only hears what you are saying and does not hear the negative. If you say you don't want to be fat, it hears FAT. If you say you don't want to be broke, it hears BROKE. Start saying that you want to be thin, healthy, wealthy and successful, as well as happy and fulfilled. If you don't feel well, state that you are starting to feel great. Stop complaining!! Put the words in to the Universe that will bring you exactly what you want.

When you catch your thoughts going to a negative place, simply change the directions of your mind. Don't spiral down the proverbial "rabbit hole". If you can start thinking about anything that you can be grateful for such as a roof over your head, running water and food in the pantry, you can start to change the direction of your focus. Sometimes, if I can't bring myself to be grateful of anything in the moment, I will just repeat the phrase I stated above: "Think only thoughts that feel good and talk only about what you want." This gets your focus off the negative and starts retraining your brain.

It is so important to become aware of the impact that self-talk has on you. The Law of Attraction will not judge what you are saying, it will only respond to your words. Make a pact with yourself that you will no longer:

• Focus on what is wrong
• Complain
• Criticize, judge and gossip
• Avoid responsibility and blame others
• Speak hurtful or negative words

Words carry their own vibration, and you can tell by just speaking them. See how much better you feel when you say these words: love, compassion, joy, peace, happiness, amazing, abundance, yes, beautiful, delicious, grateful. You can feel your vibration rise.

There was an experiment done by Dr. Masaru Emoto in the 1990's where he observed the physical effect of words, prayers, music and environments on the crystalline structure of water. If you have not seen the results of this, it is fascinating and clearly shows the powerful effects of what we put out so search the video on the internet.

Learn to focus on the positive and watch how your life and the people that surround you will change. You will notice negative people slowly fall away from your inner circle and new happier people will start to appear. Good things will start to happen and you may even notice little miracles. I had someone in front of me in line pay for my coffee at the convenience store for no reason today. Watch these little things happen, have gratitude and start moving into your own happiness.

By Tracy Wills

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Brilliant video! Who has analysis paralysis and needs to take action?

Your Limiting Beliefs Are Hurting You

If you are like many of us, you have probably gotten to a point where you have realized that you are not at the place in your life where you had hoped to be. Whether it is your finances, your weight, your relationships, you career or any other area of your life. What most people don't realize is that when you do not have what you desire to have, it is because deep down in your subconscious mind, there are various limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck.

As we have talked about in other articles, these limiting beliefs are not even in our conscious awareness. We may not even know that they exist. Once you are aware of the fact that your limiting beliefs are actually preventing you from achieving what you want, then you can start to dig a little deeper to determine what they are, clear them out and get on your way to achieving those things that you want.

I for one have struggled with beliefs about money. One of the beliefs is that there was "never enough money". Since I truly believed this to the core of me, I would keep manifesting situations of lack and then seeing for myself that there never was enough. I kept reliving the same feelings about money because that is what I truly believed. Part of this was from my parents and some of it was from past religious beliefs telling me that God gives us only what we need for the day. I made up that I could only have enough to get by and no extra. Once I was able to let go and counteract that belief and affirm to myself that there is an endless supply of money in the Universe, the belief lost its grip on me, and money started showing up from unusual sources and various ways.

Sadly, most of us have had these and other beliefs for years and have created multiple layers. We can become aware of one layer and clear it and a couple of days, weeks or months later, it may appear again. It doesn't mean that you never cleared it the first time, but that there are deeper layers for healing. Be patient with yourself as you can eventually clear them and depending on how embedded in your subconscious they are, will determine how easy they are to get rid of. Sometimes they are more of a challenge to get rid of as they have become a part of our identity and we don't know what or who we would be without them.

I recently had to face a painful realization of a belief that I had been holding on to unknown to me. It started to surface a couple of months ago and I faced it and thought I had cleared it. It now sounds like such a ridiculous thought. The belief was " I don't deserve to be happy". If you would have asked me a few months ago, I would have sworn that I knew I deserved to be happy. But deep down, my subconscious mind was resisting this thought and it started to feel really uncomfortable when I would say those words to myself.

I grew up in a chaotic, high stress, abusive household. So as a child, when I may have been feeling happy minding my own business (and I am a naturally happy person) and then out of left field came anger and raging, I may have instantly told myself that I shouldn't be happy or I don't deserve to be. When this pattern continued on a regular basis, I had no choice to say to myself, " See, I was happy and someone got mad at me so clearly I shouldn't be happy".

I continued to seek these types of relationships where there was erratic behavior and raging to confirm that exact subconscious belief. Despite the fact that I always woke up happy, something would always happen, whether it was my own painful thoughts or actions or words by anther. I had no idea in my conscious mind until recently when it came blaring to my attention.

As this new and deeper layer came to surface, I became more sensitive and was blaming more because I was feeling uncomfortable. I found myself having a great day and then finding something to turn it rough. How could I be happy if my true belief was I didn't deserve to be? I caught myself starting to sabotage my own happiness and the happiness of others around me to stay aligned with my beliefs. I didn't want them to be happy because then I had to face my own pain. It was quite painful to me at a conscious level because I really wanted to be happy, but somehow, it was like a comfortable slipper for my subconscious mind when I was not happy.

It was a sick cycle and I could not believe what I had created in my mind from the time I was a child. This could have kept me captive for the rest of my life had I not faced it head on due to the fact it was causing problems in my most precious relationship. Life would be great for a quick time but it would never stay that way or even close. I saw what I was doing and had to bring it to a screeching halt. I had no idea where the behavior was coming from and was embarrassed by my unforeseen reactions.

We have all our answers within us and we just have to ask for it to be revealed. I sought the answer within and then I was able to address the belief, release it and counteract it. Wow, it was freedom from bondage I didn't even know I was in.

Sometimes, there is something within us that is not ready to face the truth and it may take a while for the answer to come. If that is the case, be patient and know it is for your highest and best.

Clearing these beliefs may be a breeze for some and more of a challenging for others especially those who grew up in dysfunctional homes. I always remind our readers that although it may be painful to face, inside that Pandora's box is a beautiful treasure chest. Happy treasure hunting! Namaste

By Tracy Wills
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